10 Super Easy Ways to Be More Romantic

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Romance is contagious. So the best way to get your partner to be more romantic is to be more romantic with them first. 

The theory goes that men aren't supposed to like romance. But more and more of them are coming out of their shell to admit that, yes, they want to be wooed from time to time, too. It doesn't have to be big — it just needs to be personal.

10 Super Easy Ways to Be More Romantic
These things are likely to get him looking at you with cheesy hearts in his eyes, so give them a go — and then maybe consider these strategies to pretty much guarantee you'll get laid tonight.

Here are 10 not-too-arduous ways to do just that. (ways to show love)

1. Wax nostalgic. 

Ninety-eight percent of romance is remembering not to take each other for granted. So tap into long-lost crush feelings by regularly thinking back to those first exhilarating moments that made you fall in love: the first time you met, your first date, your first kiss, your first time naked together, the first time you had teary, face-holding, we-adore-each-other sex. Remember how lucky you thought you’d be if you ended up together for the long haul—especially during those moments when the way they chew is starting to annoy you.

2. Changing your outfit.

No, I'm not telling you to get out of your sweatpants and put on a nice dress because that's what your man deserves. Fuck that — we're not stuck in 1953, and if you want to wear sweatpants you can wear the GD sweatpants. But if there's one thing to keep in mind about men, it's that they are visually oriented specimens, says psychologist Ronald Goldstein, Ph.D., a marriage counselor in Newtown, Pennsylvania. That's why dressing for his tastes — rather than just your own — every once in a while can have a big effect. 

When he comments on how great that flannel button-down looks on you, tuck the idea away so you can pair it with skinny jeans and boots for your next date. Or "take him [on a short] shopping [trip] and have him choose outfits he would like to see you in or some lingerie he finds sexy," suggests Barbara De Angelis, Ph.D., author of Secrets About Men Every Woman Should Know. It's not likely they'll be interested in shopping for long, but the fact that he gets to choose (so keep an open mind for as long as you can) could keep him engaged for longer than you might think.

3. Don’t overshare. 

There’s a fine line between intimacy and TMI. We’re not so prudish as to suggest you should never pee in front of one another, but is it so much to ask that you keep your #2’s private? And when it comes to eliminating errant facial and body hairs, it might be a good idea to lock the bathroom door. Ask that your partner does the same for you. Just think of it as a quality alone time to pamper yourselves.

4. Sneaking in a flirty note.

"Sometimes a man likes to hear that he's loved and missed," says Goldstein. "Corny as it sounds, if the woman puts a note in his briefcase or sends a text during work just to say how much she's looking forward to having sex that night, it can really make a guy's day." Easy enough, no?

5. Go on dates. 

Someone told us recently that it’s pathetically suburban to call it a “date night.” We say, save “hip” for your wardrobe and music library and embrace the cheese in your relationship. There’s a reason dinner-and-a-movie is a decades-long tradition—it works! Besides, if you don’t call it a date night, how is your partner supposed to know that you want them to change out of their old college sweatshirt and act all date-like? Subtle hints don’t work; calling it a date night does. If you really can’t stand to say those two words, then help clue them in with a new outfit for the occasion—or just ask them to wear a certain outfit that you love.

6. Giving him the night off.


Does he usually cook dinner during the week? Tell him you're ordering out (because you sure as hell don't have to cook if you don't want to). Is he stressed about an upcoming work presentation? Bring the guy a chilled beer. Little gestures like that can feel like the royal treatment, yet they don't take much effort on your part. Win-win!

7. Exchange just-because gifts or treats. 

Don’t wait for the officially designated romantic holidays—anniversaries, birthdays, and Valentine’s Day—to give your partner a thoughtful present. Surprising them with something out of the blue shows that they’re on your mind, that you don’t take them for granted, and that you care all of the other non-holiday days of the year, too. If you’re broke, just bring them breakfast in bed with their favorite section of the newspaper on a random Sunday (and yes, “favorite section of the newspaper” may also be a euphemism for “fantastic oral sex”). Remember to reassure them that they didn’t somehow forget a major anniversary, otherwise, their mind will be racing all day.

8. Write love notes. 

No need to pen long, flowery love letters or corny poetry (though the romantic potential of a sweet and funny love haiku cannot be overestimated). Just write the occasional “thinking of you” email, put a surprise “miss you already” Post-It in his business trip suitcase, or draw a heart around your initials on the steamed bathroom mirror.

9. Be A Heat-Seeking Missile For Ways To Improve Her Life

If you notice she’s been using the same ratty old umbrella for a few weeks, buy her a new one.

If she is always in a rush in the morning and sometimes skips breakfast, make her something quick and easy to eat (that isn’t too messy) or pack her some snacks in a bag.


Does she keep stretching her neck around because it’s sore? Break out the massage oil, my dude. It’s massage time!

10. Compliment your partner. 

Speaking of his self-esteem: We all like to feel needed and desired, but guys especially. So lay the compliments on thick at home, too. Just because it’s been established in your relationship that he can cook (and you can’t), doesn’t mean you can forgo the lavish praises of his famous homemade lasagna. And just because he doesn’t spend as long as you do in front of the mirror doesn’t mean he doesn’t want to hear how attractive you find him — especially if he’s experimenting with a new facial hairstyle.

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