Happiness: 5 Unusual Tricks To Be Happy (and that work)7:21:00 PM
HAPPINESS - You want to be happy? Here are five tips to get there, based on the latest research in the field. 1. Walk as if you were in a ...
HAPPINESS - You want to be happy? Here are five tips to get there, based on the latest research in the field.
1. Walk as if you were in a pub for shampoo.The general idea: what you do affects what you feel, says author Richard Wiseman, in his latest book, The As If Principle. In other words, behave as if you were happy and you will be, scientifically speaking.
An odd thing to do that could work: change your way of walking. The researchers found that people who walk with long strides (significant progress, swinging arms) for three minutes feel "actually happier" than those who walk by dragging feet (small steps, hunched shoulders, face down).
2. Act as if nothing had ever happened.The general idea: most of us have certain ideas of the moment or how one will benefit better from life ("When I have this work!" Or "If I get married"), which in Fact, prevents us from being happy, says Sonja Lyubomirsky in her book The Myths of Happiness. All these accepted ideas are not about the future. To think continually that if one had acted differently in the past, one would be happier today, is just as harmful.
An odd thing to do that could work: create "a new yourself."
The first step: look at the one or more things you absolutely wanted, but you did not get (e.g., "I wanted to skate at the Olympics!" Or "I wanted to have a child").
Then, look at the specific reasons that prevented this dream from happening: what people and/or events influenced you; What minor or major choices have you made? Once this painful task has been done - a job that most people avoid doing - you will be better prepared to imagine "a new yourself." That is, you can start working now on the person you want to become, instead of comparing yourself or trying to catch up with the person you wanted to be before.
3. Give to help yourself.The general idea: "Give it until you succeed," says Adam Grant, author of Giving and Take, explaining how generosity helps you flourish and not fail - even in the most stressful situations.
An odd thing to do that could work: buy cashmere socks from your mother. Researchers at the Harvard Business School, the University of British Columbia and the University of Liège have established that buying something for someone else - as long as it does not exceed a reasonable range of 3 To 15 euros - makes you happier than buying the same for yourself.
4. Murmur in the dark.The general idea: There have never been more Americans dissatisfied with their job situation than since the recession, says Lyubomirsky. Perhaps it is the result of lower wages and longer hours. But it is also perhaps because we have become accustomed to the positive aspects of our jobs and we have considered them a little assured.
A strange thing to do that could work: make a list of everything you love - or even adore - in your job: open attitude to new ideas for example, or a laptop that can be brought home. If you are one of the people who make lists of things for which they are grateful just before going to bed, be aware that your spouse may be a little worried about you whispering in the dark: "milk hazelnut in the unlimited Gentle boss, free post-it."
5. Drop the thought "smiley."The general idea: some people play to win. Others play to not lose, explains the recent book Focus: Use Different Ways of Seeing the World for Success and Influence. Find out what type you belong to helps motivate you, succeed faster and, just, make you feel better.
A strange thing to do that might work: refuse to be optimistic (if you are not an active person). In an experiment conducted by the two authors, Heidi Grant Halvorson and E. Tory Higgins, a set of letters were given to individuals who play for not losing (and who also tend to be pessimistic). In the middle of the game, they were told they had succeeded - they quickly lost their motivation and stopped playing. On the other hand, when they were told in mid-game that they were not really satisfied, they were motivated to do better, solved more puzzles and had more fun. All this brings us back to the good old principle of happiness: be yourself. You have the right to be pessimistic.