Identifying Abuse In Your Relationship1:50:00 PM
A relationship is a s sweet as love is, it can turn sour. Because emotional abuse has become such a popular topic in the self-help and psy...
A relationship is as sweet as love is, it can turn sour. Because emotional abuse has become such a popular topic in the self-help and psychology fields, you may already be familiar with some of its signs, which may include withdrawal of affection, name-calling, and control. But if you suspect you’re in an emotionally abusive relationship, you may be so immersed in it that you can’t read the very destructive handwriting on the wall. Emotional abuse becomes, in a sense, your blurred normal.
There are certain behaviors which are signs of possible abuse in the nearest future, constant jealousy, excessively possessive as to your whereabouts, who you interact with, etc. Never admits to his shortcomings, isolates you from friends and almost family, he expects you to be totally submissive (i.e., serve and obey him), etc.
Having known or seen these few signs, the next step is understanding what type or category of abuse your relationship falls under. Have it in mind that not every form of abuse leaves physical bruises. That stated clearly, here are five common types of abusive relationships to take note of.
Control: Abusive relationships brings to mind physical violence. Attempts to control a spouse’s behavior, friends, finances, or activities is often the first sign of an abusive situation and may be a precursor to violence. Control may be attempted by using threats, anger, or excessive criticism.
Emotional Manipulation: Another form of psychological abuse is the use of guilt, blame, anger, or other manipulation to degrade the victim. The purpose may be simply to hurt you or to force compliance. Your spouse may play mind-games, attack your vulnerabilities, threatens to leave or withhold affection/approval as punishment. Repeated infidelity also falls under emotionally abusive relationships.
Verbal Abuse: Constant demeaning, insulting, or humiliating comments in public or private are incredibly damaging forms of verbal abuse. This includes telling hurtful “jokes” about you despite your discomfort and requests to stop, name-calling, swearing, and insults, questioning your sanity or ridiculing your opinions/desires.
Sexual Abuse: Until recently, unwanted or forced sex in a relationship or marriage was not considered “rape.” Victims of sexual abuse still face considerable stigma when coming forward with their sexually abusive relationships. Sexual abuse includes unwanted sex, withholding sex, forced engagement in any sexual activity that frightens or hurts you, refusing to practice safe sex or preventing you from using birth control or making decisions about pregnancy/abortion.
Physical Violence: If your partner has done anything to intentionally hurt you, it is critical that you remove yourself from him immediately. In addition to beating and choking, pinning you down, spitting on you, abandoning you in dangerous places, driving at high speeds or toying with dangerous situations to intimidate you, refusing to help you or withholding aid when you are sick, injured or pregnant is also physical abuse.
All these are enough reasons to raise the red flag and seek immediate help! You deserve the very best, don’t wait till you’re nearly six feet under before realizing love doesn’t exist in your relationship anymore. Run, baby. Run!