Difference in Love and Marriage: Love vs Marriage

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What is the difference between love and infatuation? “Real love involves commitment to the other person but infatuation doesn't. It is generally accepted that men and women view love and respect in a marriage differently. 

1. Love is a feeling or an emotion, whereas marriage is more of a ceremonial event to formalize a change in one’s civil status from being single to being married.

2. Marriage is more equated to commitments, whereas love doesn’t necessarily have any, unless it is the romantic type of love

Difference in Love and Marriage: Love vs Marriage
Difference in Love and Marriage

A student asks a teacher, “What is love?”
The teacher said, “in order to answer your question, go to the wheat field and choose the biggest wheat and come back. But the rule is: you can go through them only once and cannot turn back to pick.” The student went to the field, go thru first row, he saw one big wheat, but he wonders… may be there is a bigger one later. Then he saw another bigger one… But may be there is an even bigger one waiting for him. Later, when he finished more than half of the wheat field, he start to realize that the wheat is not as big as the previous one he saw, he know he has missed the biggest one, and he regretted. So, he ended up went back to the teacher with empty hand. The teacher told him, “this is love… You keep looking for a better one, but when later you realize, you have already miss the person…”

“What is marriage then?” the student asked.

The teacher said, “in order to answer your question, go to the corn field and choose the biggest corn and come back. But the rule is: you can go through them only once and cannot turn back to pick.” The student went to the corn field, this time he is careful not to repeat the previous mistake, when he reach the middle of the field, he has picked one medium corn that he feel satisfy, and come back to the teacher. The teacher told him, “This time you bring back a corn. You look for one that is just nice, and you have faith  and believe this is the best one you get… This is marriage.”

Love vs. Marriage

People have lots of definitions when it comes to love and marriage. Unlike marriage, love is the most subjective of them all. Its definition can vary depending on the person, and can change across different countries, cultures or religions.

Basically, love is pure emotion. It is also a feeling at the same time. To concretely define love, is almost impossible, but most people can regard it as the sum of all feelings, emotions and experiences that show a deep or strong sense of affection towards something or someone, may it be an individual or a group of individuals. It is clearly more than friendship, for it is an enduring experience of want and care towards somebody else.

Difference in Love and Marriage: Love vs Marriage
When you are in love, you are not obligated to undergo marriage, for it is a choice and not a requirement, although, most societies end (or actually begin) love with marriage. However, it is also important to note that not all marriages end up as a result of love, as in the case of fixed marriages. Even if love is one of the primary factors to be considered in a marriage, there are still a few couples who get married even without love.

On the other hand, marriage is more of a civil status. It is the event in which a couple officially becomes married. This activity gives more meaning to love, and dictates a lasting commitment or contract between the two parties. Marriage is practically dependent on culture, and it is usually a union between a man and a woman, although not physically.

In the Roman Catholic belief system, it is the ‘tying of the knot’ between partners composed of the opposite sexes, although, some countries nowadays allow same sex marriages (homosexual marriages). They are joined together, not by the power of man, but by the power of God. Jokingly said, it also bears some truth to say that sex is legal in marriage, because it is almost always illegal, or perhaps immoral in most religions, if it is performed before marriage (hence the term fornication).

Love has different levels. Romantic love is the love that you can often see, or experience, between partners like a husband and wife. This love is more intense and passionate, and is more or less sexual in nature. Love can also be filial, and be more in-tune to the family. It can also be a religious type of love, like the love for God and the like. The highest level, or form of love, is said to be termed as agape.

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