Difference Between Love And Falling In Love

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We never taught about the differences between loving someone & being in love. When you're in love with someone, you think you care more about that person more than you actually do. Falling in love is much, much easier than loving. When you're in love, the chemicals in your brain and body make you feel as if the person is the greatest person in the world.

Few understand the difference between love and falling in love. Here are 4 things that explain what exactly love is and what are falling in love.

No, it's not the same.
Love and falling in love are two similar feelings but also different. People tend to confuse and sometimes can not come to love because they want to be constantly in love, without understanding that there are differences between the two feelings that are even scientifically proven. Love is what really matters and is a feeling that lasts forever, but we do not start to feel once we stop being in love.

Difference Between Love And Falling In Love
But how do you know if you're still in love or loving? There are 4 circumstances in which we differentiate both feelings ...

1. Duration

Infatuation: Psychologist Eva Silva Latapi in an article states that the state of infatuation lasts 6 months to 3 years. At that time there is an increase dopamine (7000 times more than normal) generating a euphoric state and impulsive.

Love: It arises when the infatuation stage is completed and is thought to be a drop in euphoria because you can come to believe that one is losing interest in the other person. However, this reaction is normal as they are falling abnormal levels of dopamine. If the infatuation stage is exceeded, the relationship can have an indefinite duration.

2. Expectations

Infatuation: In this stage the pair displays an idealized form. physical attributes and psychological characteristics, so we believe we are in a perfect person.

Love: Bajan hormones and return to normal rhythm. If you are able to accept that the person you have at your side is someone with flaws and virtues, like you, and stop idealize as in the first stage, you're feeling love.

3. Attachment

Infatuation: Right now you are generating love, admiration and physical attraction to the person you're in love. But also a constant anxiety for being reciprocated.

Love: When love comes, that anxiety disappears and you enter a state of peace and security (associated with oxytocin, a hormone responsible for creating emotional and intense links).

Difference Between Love And Falling In Love
4. Fidelity

At this point only talk of love, as many say to be faithful must be completely love. And it is why many people are still being unfaithful lovers The reason?

Love: When he finishes the infatuation stage, high dopamine levels we had at the beginning of the relationship are replaced by increased vasopressin. This hormone generates strong establishing neuronal connections that work memories of pleasant moments that are associated to the welfare of the couple and is for that reason that when people are completely faithful love.

DO NOT be alarmed if perhaps no longer feel the same excitement and euphoria you had at the beginning of a relationship. This does not mean that love is ending, but it is the test to find out if you really love the person who has been by your side.

The Argentine psychotherapist Jorge Bucay says that "falling in love is love matches and love is falling in love with differences".

If you are noticing that maybe your prince turned into a frog, do not be afraid, you're probably just entering the stage of love.

Do you think it is possible to maintain the intensity of the infatuation during the stage of love?

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