20 Key Ideas For a Happy Marriage

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A happy long-lasting marriage: Really? Is it still possible? Well, I guess we'll have to wait fifty years to find out. Of course, no one should stay in an abusive marriage. If you're being abused and bullied then your spouse has defaulted on 'the deal' anyway (remember the 'to love and to cherish' part of the vows?). But our 'throw away society' may mean that perfectly good relationships are too quickly discarded because they don't seem ideal. 
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A happy marriage is healthy

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Marriage may seem as old-fashioned as sepia tone, but repeated research shows that people who remain married to one partner are the happiest (1) and that married people are statistically happier and live longer (2) than their non-married counterparts. Do we even know why some marriages work and some don't? Fortunately for this article, we do. We now know what happy marriages should avoid and also what needs to be encouraged to make marriages healthier and happier.
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Of course no marriage is perfect, but many are happy. Happy marriages have difficulties, but there is an abiding sense of 'us', not just 'you and me'. Follow these strategies (both of you) and who knows - maybe you'll be telling me fifty years hence of all the health, psychological benefits, and happiness you've enjoyed.

20 Key Ideas For a Happy Marriage

1. Keep your mind on your main goal, which is to have a happy marriage. Say and do what will enable you and your spouse to have a happy marriage. Avoid the opposite. Everything else is commentary. 
2. Keep asking yourselves, What can we do to have a happy, loving atmosphere in our home?
3.  Focus on giving, rather than taking. Say and do as many things as possible to meet your spouses needs.
4.  Keep doing and saying things that will give your spouse a sense of importance.
5.  Frequently ask yourself, What positive things can I say and do to put my (husband or wife) in a positive emotional state?
6.  Before speaking, clarify the outcome you want. The meaning of your communication is the response you actually get. If the first thing you say is not achieving your goal, change your approach. Remember that mutual respect and happiness is your real goal. Do not needlessly argue. Silence is often the wisest choice. Constantly be mutually respectful.
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7.  Show appreciation and gratitude in as many ways as possible. Say something appreciative a few times a day.
8.  Be a good listener. Understand your spouse from his or her point of view.
9.  Be considerate of the feelings and needs of your spouse. Think of ways that you have lacked consideration and be resolved to increase your level of consideration.
10.  Instead of blaming and complaining think of positive ways to motivate your spouse. If your first strategies are not effective, think of creative ways.
11.  Give up unrealistic expectations. Do not expect your spouse to be perfect and do not make comparisons.
12.  Do not cause pain with words. If your spouse speaks to you in ways that cause you pain, choose outcome wording, Lets speak to each other in ways that are mutually respectful.
13.  Be willing to compromise. Be willing to do something you would rather not do in return for similar behavior from your spouse.
14.  Write a list of ways that you have benefited from being married to your spouse. Keep adding to the list and reread it frequently.
15.  Write a list of your spouses positive patterns and qualities. Keep adding to the list and read it frequently.
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16.  Keep thinking about what you can do to bring out the best qualities of your spouse. Reinforce those qualities with words and action.
17.  Focus on finding solutions to any problems that arise. Be solution oriented. Do not just blame and complain. Do not focus on who is more wrong. For a happy marriage, work together to find mutually acceptable solutions.
18.  Remember your finest moments. What did you say and do when you felt best about each other? Increase them.
19.  Look for positive activities you can do together.
20.  Live in the present. What went wrong in the past is the past. You create the present and future with your thoughts, words, and actions right now. Choose them wisely.
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