10 Things Happy Couples Avoid: Bring Happiness in a Relationship8:34:00 AM
Happiness in a relationship takes a daily conscious effort and healthy habits. Avoid these negative behaviors and attitudes and see how yo...
Happiness in a relationship takes a daily conscious effort and healthy habits. Avoid these negative behaviors and attitudes and see how you can bring more love and joy into your own marriage.
They don’t complain about their spouse to their friends or family. Happy
couples know that it’s best not to involve others in their marriage.
They talk directly to their spouse if they have an issue instead of
consulting others who often may provide negative feedback that could
hurt the relationship. There is nothing wrong with healthy ‘girl’ or
‘guy’ time but don’t use it as an opportunity to complain about your
They don’t compare their spouse to others. Happy couples
accept and love their spouse as is. They know that comparing their
spouse to others is unrealistic and unfair and will leave them feeling
insecure about their marriage. The grass isn’t always greener on the
other side, even if it looks like it is.
They don’t blame each other. Happy couples take
responsibility for their feelings and their role in the relationship.
They ask for what they need instead of wallowing in self-pity or blaming
their spouse for their situation.
They aren’t too serious. Happy couples know how to
experience joy and have fun. They “date” regularly and laugh. Even when
life throws you a curveball and things are extremely stressful, they
work at keeping things light and fun.
They don’t criticize. They look for the good in their
spouse and when they are upset, they learn how to ask for their needs in
a sensitive way. Happy couples know that criticism
only tears the other down and creates a rupture in their relationship.
If your spouse is doing something you don’t like, pay attention to why
it’s bothering you and learn how to talk about it in a safe way.
They don’t ignore their finances. Happy couples know that
financial stress puts pressure on a marriage. They’re in communication
about their financial goals so that they can make responsible decisions
for their future together. If money is a topic you would rather not
discuss, know that avoiding it will make money matters worse.
They avoid mind reading. Happy couples know how to
communicate so that they both are aware of each other’s needs and
feelings. No matter how connected they feel, they don’t expect their
spouse to know what they want or how they are feeling. They spell it out
clearly. If you are not getting the attention you need, tell your
They don’t nag. Happy couples encourage each other instead
of pressuring. They find ways to support each other which serves as a
natural motivator, as opposed to nagging
which often backfires. If your husband is out of work, instead of
nagging him to go on job interviews, try to raise his morale with your
love and support, even if it seems scary. Your genuine encouragement and
trust in him will motivate him to move forward.
They don't withhold or forget about intimacy. Happy couples are intimate physically
and realize that it is an essential part of a healthy marriage. They
increase their bond by focusing on each other's needs. Even if life gets
busy don't neglect this important aspect of your relationship.
They don't have one foot out the door. Happy couples are
committed to each other, even when the going gets tough. They don't
enter the relationship with an exit strategy in case it doesn't work
out. If you're committed to your relationship, you will be present
enough to put in the work that it takes to create a great relationship.