The Science Behind Falling in Love11:31:00 AM
Love is an extremely hard word to define. Did you ever wonder how or why two people fall in love? H...
Love is an extremely hard word to define.
Did you ever wonder how or why two people fall in love? How does one become attracted emotionally or physically? The process begins with dopamine, which is a chemical released in our brain that triggers our testosterone. This immediately affects our genitals, sweat glands, and senses. This could cause nervousness and the forbidden “clammy hands” when we first create chemistry with another individual.
The next step is the focus of desire, the individual becomes more aware and observant of the other person and their own actions as well. Norepinephrine is a stimulant that is released which is responsible for alertness that will cause a person to notice small details about the other individual and remember it.
PEA is the other stimulant that cones into play in this stage of attraction.
It is an “endogenous stimulant of the human brain that amplifies the activity of major neurotransmitters for increased longevity, slower aging, higher performance, a sense of wellbeing, and a renewed youthful-functioning body.” It can be the reason for potential giddines or maybe even a sudden loss in appetite.
Next the brain reward system comes in to play. The reward system will send chemical messages to parts of our body like our stomach and our skin etc which then will send the messages back up to our brain. The brain then will want to seek more of this pleasurable sensation. During this primary stage of love something as simple as a photo of the person can increase this focus and change in mood.
Complication may come in to play at this point, some are fearful of rejection which by nature will override that crazy happy feeling of pleasure. This is the final stage of falling in love where the attachment sets in. “Attachment is a bond helping the couple to take their relationship to advanced levels. It instigates the feeling of bearing children and falling in love with them wholeheartedly.” Oxytocin is the hormone responsible for this attachment feeling, “it formulates the depth of love.”
According to psychology, interestingly enough, the relationship you will have with your partner one day, reflects the relationship you had with your parents in your childhood. For example, if you were very clingy and attached to your parents when you were a growing child then this will most likely reflect on your adults relationship with your lover and you will be clingy with a stronger sense of attachment.