15 Easy Tips For Improving Your Self Confidence8:22:00 PM
Self - esteem is how we feel about ourselves. Through positive thought and the help of others you c...
Self-esteem is how we feel about ourselves. Through positive thought and the help of others you can learn simple techniques to improve your self-confidence.
It seems as though some people are born with confidence and others have to work hard to build theirs up. I fall into the building category. When I was younger it was tough building self confidence. I was always comparing myself to others and always looking at the negatives – what I lacked – as opposed to what I brought to the table.
The only way to do great work is to love what you do. Steve jobs
15 Tips To Help In Building Self Confidence
Take Care Of YourselfThis is #1 for a reason. As you will see from the rest of the list, self confidence comes from within. If you are looking for outside sources to build your self confidence, you are going to fail miserably. So, you HAVE to work on and take care of yourself.
I’m not saying you have to have the body of supermodel, but you need to take care of yourself. Exercise and eat well. It all comes down to simply making smarter choices in life. And they don’t have to be huge life altering ones either.
I bought myself a fitness tracker and began tracking my daily steps. The recommended amount is 10,000. I thought I was active (even though I sit at a desk all day) and set out for that goal. To say I was surprised when I was barely hitting 5,000 steps is an understatement! It really opened my eyes to how much I sit all day long while working.
I now average close to 12,000 a day. All I did was make a few small changes to my day that have become routine. For example:
- I park a little further away from the store when I go shopping
- I periodically get out of my chair throughout the day and take a brief walk for 3 minutes
- I take stairs over escalators
Stand TallTake note as to how you walk. If you have a hard time seeing how you walk, have a friend record you walking. You may be surprised. Are your shoulders slumped? Is your head down? This is how someone walks who doesn’t have confidence. Stand up tall with your head up when you walk.
SmileLearn to smile. It’s crazy that I say learn to smile but many of us don’t smile that much. When you see someone, smile and say hello. Better yet, just walk around with a smile on your face. Just doing this will make you instantly feel happier inside and will do wonders for your self confidence. In fact, if you stop here and just make these 3 points habits, you will be well on your way to building self confidence.
Look People In The EyeNothing shows others that you have confidence like looking them in the eye when you talk to them. Additionally, when you do this while they are talking to you, it shows that you are really paying attention to them and what they are saying. Of course, make sure you blink and don’t stare when looking someone in the eye.
Change Your HabitsWhat are you doing that is causing you to lack confidence? Are you scared of speaking in public? Instead of hiding when you are called upon in the office or in class, make it a habit of getting past your fear and speak up.
Maybe your lack of confidence comes from being overweight. Instead of giving in to your craving for a pizza, go for a walk instead or have a tall glass of water. Both of these will help you to get over your urge and will help you to build confidence.
Think PositiveMany times we have a lack of confidence because we fear or doubt an outcome to an event. Instead of thinking negatively about an outcome, think positively. Think of the great things that will come out of it. In the off chance that it doesn’t turn out as you planned, don’t get discouraged. Instead, look at the bright side. Maybe you didn’t get that new job, but there could be better fit for you right around the corner. You never know, so don’t get discouraged so easily.
When you can find the positives in all situations, you lose your fear and this is a great step in building self confidence.
VolunteerHelping others in need is another great activity that helps to build self confidence. I know when I do good for others, I feel amazing. That feeling stays with me for days on end
Remember, you can volunteer your time and skills to great causes. It doesn’t have to be money.
LearnAlways strive to learn. If there is something you have an interest in, learn more about it. You can learn more about it for free through books from your library, online resources and guides and even at colleges. There are plenty of colleges that offer free, no credit courses in a variety of fields. As you learn more and more, your confidence in the subject matter grows and so does your overall confidence as well.
Do Something You Keep Putting OffOne simple way to build self confidence is to do the things we have been procrastinating on. Regardless of what the thing is, we are putting it off for a reason. Getting it done and off of your to-do list is a great shot of motivation.
I know for me, there are plenty of little things around the house I have to get to. I always put them off, even though they are easy to do and will take little time. When I finally do get around to doing one or two, I get on a roll and start knocking them all out. It’s amazing how good it feels to get them off my plate. Even though they aren’t big things, they still weigh me down.
Do Something That Scares YouThis trick to building self confidence is related to the above. Write down a list of things that scare you and start knocking them off the list. I did this a few years ago. Each month, I had to do something that scared me. One time it was looking out the window on the plane (I hate flying). Another time it was walking down a stairway on the side of a mountain.
While they scared me at the time, they helped me to build my self confidence. When I fly, I look out the window all the time now. It might not seem like a good idea at first to challenge yourself in this way, but it is a great way to build your self confidence.
Stop Talking NegativelyMany times we put ourselves down by talking negative. We tell ourselves we can’t do this or are unable to do that. Stop putting yourself down with negative talk and lift yourself up with positive words of encouragement. When you try and fail, instead of saying “I can’t do this”, say that in time I will be able to do this, I just need more practice.
Stop Caring What Others ThinkRelated again to the above point, stop caring what others think. You aren’t out to please others, your goal is to please yourself and be happy. What makes you happy won’t make others happy most of the time. So you can either be miserable and make them happy, or just focus on your own happiness. Since you have to deal with yourself 24 hours a day, I suggest you make it a point to make you happy.
While it will be hard at first and you might disappoint them, they will get over it and so will you. As is said, you have to live with yourself, so you might as well be happy otherwise life will not be much fun.
Rationalize Your DoubtsMany times we get scared or worried and let our doubts control us. We let our minds go to the worst case scenario and allow that to determine whether or not we do something. If you are always allowing fear to rule you, you will never be self confident. Learn to rationalize your doubts.
Next time you have a doubt, go ahead and think of the worst case scenario. Then stop and think about how likely that outcome will be. Odds are it will be rare. Once you realize this, you can start thinking more positively about the outcomes.
I know for me, if I look back at the times I doubted something, 99% of the time the worst case scenario never came true. This fact alone gives me confidence to try things because I know that the odds are against the worst possible outcome.
Grow From FailingIf you hold yourself back because you are afraid to fail, I am here to tell you to go fail. Fail gloriously. Failing is the absolute best thing that can happen to you. It helps you to build character and grow not only as person but also helps in building self confidence.
As long as you look at your failures to see what you did wrong and make a change for the better, failing is a great thing. I’ve failed many times in life and I will fail many more times. I don’t let it control me or determine what I do. I know that failing is important and as a result, I don’t fear it. Ideally I want to succeed, but even if I fail, I know that I am one step closer to succeeding than if I never tried at all.
Change The Company You KeepThis is the hardest option for building self confidence and so it comes last. If you are hanging out with negative people that lack confidence, you will mimic them and be just like them. Because of this, you have to be smart with who you spend your time with.
Hang out and be friends with people that encourage you and push you to be your best. Stop hanging out with people that hold you back or put you or others down. It might be hard at first to pull away from these people, especially if you’ve been friends for a long time, but it is the best thing for you.
Remember, you only get one shot at life. You can either be miserable with others or you can be your best and live life to the fullest and be happy. It’s your choice, so you can’t get upset if life doesn’t turn out the way you want. In the long run, getting toxic people out of your life is the best thing you can do.
Final ThoughtsSo there are 16 tips for building self confidence. Some are easier to apply than others. The key is that you start taking the steps to grow your self confidence. If you do this, you will notice a change in your life.
As your confidence grows, you will take more chances, which can lead to more opportunities, and more success, which just snowballs into more confidence and more success.