Feeling Scared? Shhhhh…… Don’t Tell Your Brain5:02:00 PM
Don’t forget that one of the reasons you feel anxiety symptoms is because your brain thinks you are ...
Don’t forget that one of the reasons you feel anxiety symptoms is because your brain thinks you are in danger all the time.
It thinks your life is a war zone because of how you think and react to the stress in your life. Is this the message you want to be sending to your brain??
Even if you feel out of control and scared, remain calm and show your brain that you have it under control and that you don’t need it to call for back-up and send out that extra adrenaline.
A simple trick?
How to get rid of Feeling ScaredTell yourself that its okay to be freaking out, but that you are going to “pretend” to be calm so that your brain doesn’t catch on.
If something terrible happened to you while a child was with you, would you freak out and let the child see you so upset, or would you pretend to stay calm so they didn’t get upset too?
Use that same line of thinking with your brain. Just because you are feeling out of control, your brain doesn’t have to find out about it.
“How do I remain calm when I am scared?”For those of us with anxiety, this can be a difficult concept to grasp. It seems, to us, as though the 2 are mutually exclusive. This line of thinking is one of the reasons why we have anxiety disorders in the first place. But the truth is that you are in control of whether your fear controls YOU, or YOU control your fear.
Fear is something you feel. Staying calm is something you do.
You may not be able to control what you feel fear over. But you are in control of how you respond to that fear.
You can make sure you don’t start hyperventilating. You can make sure you don’t clench your muscles up. You can make sure to keep your thoughts slow and reasonable as opposed to “Oh my God!! What is happening??!!!” You can choose an attitude of self-reliance and courage. People remain calm in the face of REAL danger all the time. There is no reason why we can’t remain calm in the face of “perceived” danger.
There is a great myth flying around the anxiety world that having an anxiety disorder takes away our ability to calm ourselves down. This is NOT true. Don’t buy into it. The process may not come as naturally to us anymore, now that we have started to over-think the process and because of our level of stress, but it IS possible. Remembering that, is the key to turning it back into an easier, natural process again.