How to Win Friends and Influence People: Excerpts from Dale Carnegie's inspiring Book


Six Ways To Make People Like You

  1. Become genuinely interested in other people.
  2. Smile.
  3. Remember that a man's name is to him the sweetest and most important sound in the English language.
  4. Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.
  5. Talk in terms of the other man's interest.
  6. Make people feel important, and do it sincerely.
Twelve Ways Of Winning People To Your Way Of Thinking

  1. The only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it.
  2. Show respect for the other man's opinions. Never tell a man he is wrong.
  3. If you are wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically.
  4. Begin in a friendly way.
  5. Get people saying "yes, yes" immediately.
  6. Let other people do a great deal of talking.
  7. Let other people feel that the idea is theirs.
  8. Try honestly to see things from the other man's point of view.
  9. Be sympathetic with other people's ideas and desires.
  10. Appeal to the nobler motives.
  11. Dramatize your ideas.
  12. Throw down a challenge.
Nine Ways To Change People Without Giving Offense Or Arousing Resentment

  1. Begin with praise and honest appreciation.
  2. Call attention to people's mistakes indirectly.
  3. Talk about your own mistakes before criticizing the other man.
  4. Ask questions instead of giving direct orders.
  5. Let the other man save face.
  6. Praise the slightest improvement and praise every improvement.
  7. Give people a fine reputation to live up to.
  8. Use encouragement. Make the fault seem easy to correct.
  9. Make other people happy about doing the thing you suggest.
Fourteen Rules For Making Your Home Life Easier

  1. Don't nag.
  2. Don't try to make your partner over.
  3. Don't criticize.
  4. Give honest appreciation.
  5. Pay little attentions.
  6. Be courteous.
  7. Don't criticize her before others.
  8. Give her money to spend as she chooses.
  9. Help her through her feminine moods of fatigue, nerves, and irritability.
  10. Share at least half of your recreation time with your wife.
  11. Keep alert to praise her and express your admiration for her.
  12. Thank her for the little jobs she does for you.
  13. Dress with an eye for your mate's likes and dislikes in color and style.
  14. Compromise little differences of opinion in the interest of harmony.
Notes
Criticism is futile because it puts a man on the defensive, and usually makes him strive to justify himself. Criticism is dangerous, because it wound's a man's pride, hurts his sense of importance, and arouses his resentment. When someone speaks harshly of people, say, "Don't criticize them; they are just what we would be under similar circumstances."

When dealing with people, let us remember we are not dealing with creatures of logic. We are dealing with creatures of emotions, creatures bristling with prejudices and motivated by pride and vanity. "I will speak ill of no man, and speak all the good I know of everybody" - Benjamin Franklin, became American Ambassador to France. It takes character and self-control to be understanding and forgiving. "A great man shows his greatness by the way he treats little men" - Carlyle.

The deepest urge in human nature is the desire to be important. Many people who go insane find in insanity a feeling of importance that they were unable to achieve in reality. They have found in a dream world of their own creation the feeling of importance which they so deeply desired. If some people are so hungry for a feeling of importance that they actually go insane to get it, imagine what miracles we can achieve by giving people honest appreciation.

Almost Everybody Wants...

  1. Health and the preservation of life.
  2. Food.
  3. Sleep.
  4. Money and the things money can buy.
  5. Life in the hereafter.
  6. Sexual gratification.
  7. The well-being of our children.
  8. A feeling of importance.

One of John D. Rockefeller's partners, Edward T. Bedford, lost the firm a million dollars by a bad buy in South America. John could have criticized, but he knew Bedford had done his best. Rockefeller found something to praise; he congratulated Bedford because he had been able to save sixty percent of the money he had invested. "That's splendid! We don't always do as well upstairs" said Rockefeller.

“Every man is my superior in some way. In that, I learn of him" - Emerson.

You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you. Why should people be interested in you unless you are first interested in them? The road to someone's heart is to talk to them about the things they treasure most.

Almost every man you meet feels himself superior to you in some way, and a sure way to his heart is to let him realize in some subtle way that you recognize his importance in his little world, and recognize it sincerely.

It isn't what you have or who you are or where you are or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy. It is what you think about. The first thing to learn in intercourse with others is noninterference with their own peculiar ways of being happy.

"I'm sorry to trouble you...Would you be so kind as to...Won't you please...Would you mind...Thank you...This may, perhaps, be worth thinking of, gentlemen...you might consider this...do you think that would work? What do you think of this? Maybe if we were to rephrase it this way it would be better...It so appears to me at present..."

To make a woman fall in love with you, all you have to do is to talk to her about herself!

Everyone is hungering and thirsting for sympathy. Give it to them, and they will love you. The child eagerly displays his injury, or even inflicts a cut or bruise in order to reap abundant sympathy. For the same purpose adults show their bruises, relate their accidents and illnesses. Self-pity for misfortunes, real or imaginary, is practically a universal practice.

"Tis not love's goings hurts my days, but that it went in little ways."

Why prove to a man he is wrong? Is that going to make him like you? Why not let him save face? He didn't ask for your opinion. He didn't want it. Why argue with him? You can't win an argument, because if you lose, you lose it; and if you win it, you lose it. Why? You will feel fine. But what about him? You have made him feel inferior, you hurt his pride, insult his intelligence, his judgment, and his self-respect, and he'll resent your triumph. That will make him strike back, but it will never make him want to change his mind. "A man convinced against his will is of the same opinion still."

If you want enemies, excel your friends; but if you want friends, let your friends excel you. When our friends excel us, that gives them a feeling of importance, but when we excel them, that gives them a feeling of inferiority and arouses envy and jealousy.

In talking with people, don't begin by discussing the things on which you differ, but emphasize the things which we agree. Keep emphasizing that you are both striving for the same end and our only difference is one of method and not of purpose. Remember the other man may be totally wrong, but he doesn't think so. Don't condemn him, any fool can do that. Try to understand him.

"I don't blame you at all. If I were you, I should undoubtedly feel just as you do." An answer like that will soften the most cantankerous old cuss alive.

Examples


How to influence people
The only way to influence the other fellow is to talk about what he wants and show him how to get it. If, for example, you don't want your son to smoke, don't preach at him, and don't talk about what you want; but show him that cigarette's may keep him from making the baseball team or winning the hundred-yard dash.

Andrew Carnegie's sister-in-law was worried sick over her two boys. They were at Yale, and they were so busy with their own affairs that they neglected to write home and paid no attention whatever to their mother's frantic letters. Carnegie offered to wager a hundred dollars that he could get an answer by return mail, without even asking for it! Someone called his bet; so he wrote his nephews a chatty letter, mentioning casually in a postscript that he was sending each one a five-dollar bill. He neglected, however, to enclose the money. That did the trick. Back came the replies by return mail thanking "Dear Uncle Andrew" for his kind note and ...you can finish the sentence yourself.

The next time you want to persuade someone to do something, before you speak, pause and ask, "How can I make him want to do it?" Get the other man's point of view and see things from his angle as well as from his own.

Ralph Waldo Emerson and his son one day tried to get a calf into the barn, but they made the common mistake of thinking only of what they wanted. Emerson pushed and his son pulled. But the calf did just what they did; he thought only of what he wanted; so he stiffened his legs and stubbornly refused to leave the pasture. The Irish housemaid saw their predicament. She thought of what the calf wanted; so she put her maternal finger in the calf's mouth, and let the calf suck her finger as she gently led him into the barn.
Avoid Arguments
(If you're a Ford salesman) When someone says, "What? Ford's cars are no good! I wouldn't take one if you gave it to me. I'm going to get Chevrolet cars." Say, "Brother, listen, Chevrolet's cars are good cars. Their cars are made by a fine company and sold by good people." He's speechless then. There's no room for an argument. If he says Chevrolet's cars are the best and I say sure it is, he has to stop. Just agree with him. He can't go on all afternoon when I'm agreeing with him. We then get off the subject of Chevrolet's cars and I begin to talk about the good points of Ford's cars.

Never tell a man he is Wrong
If a man makes a statement that you think, or know, is wrong, begin by saying, "Well, I thought otherwise, but I may be wrong. I frequently am. Let's examine the facts." You'll never get into trouble by admitting you may be wrong. That'll stop all arguments and inspire the other fellow to be just as fair and broad-minded as you are. It'll make him want to admit that he, too, may be wrong.

We sometimes find ourselves changing our minds without any resistance or heavy emotion, but if we are told we are wrong, we resent the imputation and harden our hearts. We are incredibly heedless in the formation of our beliefs, but find ourselves filled with an illicit passion for them when anyone proposes to rob us of their companionship. It is not the ideas themselves that are dear to us, but our self-esteem which is threatened. We like to continue to believe what we have been accustomed to accept as true and the resentment aroused when doubt is cast upon any of our assumptions lead us to seek every manner of excuse for clinging to it. The result is that most of our so-called reasoning consists in finding arguments for going on believing as we already do.

When we are wrong, we may admit it to ourselves. And if we are handled gently and tactfully, we may admit it to others and even take pride in our frankness and broadmindedness. But not if someone else is trying to ram the fact down our throat.

Raised Rent
When one was informed he had to pay 3 times as much rent as formerly. "I was a bit shocked when I got your letter, but I don't blame you at all. If I had been in your position, I should probably have written a similar letter myself. Your duty as the manager is to make all the profit possible. Now, let's take a price of paper and write down the advantages and disadvantages that will accrue to you, if you insist on this increase in rent."

Advantages: You'll have the advantage of having the ballroom free to rent for dances and conventions, for affairs like that will pay you more than I can. Disadvantages: First, instead of increasing your income from me, you're going to decrease it. In fact, you're going to wipe it out because I cannot pay the rent you are asking. I shall be forced to go to another location. There's another disadvantage to you also. These lectures attract crowds of educated and cultured people to your hotel. That's good advertising for you, isn't it? In fact, if you spent $5,000 advertising in the newspapers, you couldn't bring as many people to look at your hotel as I can bring by these lectures. That is worth a lot to a hotel, isn't it?"

Kids
When 3 year old refused to eat. A bully next door kept knocking him off his tricycle. He was told if he eats his food, he could wallop the daylights out of the bigger kid someday. When he wet his bed, he was wearing a nightgown in his Grandma's bed. He wanted pajamas like Dad and his own bed. So, when he got them, he promised not to wet the bed because his pride was involved. He wanted to act like a man, so he did. A 3 year old daughter wouldn't eat breakfast. She loved to imitate her Mom. So, one morning they let her cook breakfast and she ate it, because she was interested in it, she achieved a feeling of importance, and found an avenue of self-expression.


Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves
When someone returns at item to you, listen to their story from beginning to end without saying a word. Then say, "what would you like me to do with this product? I'll do anything you say. If it isn't satisfactory we'll give you one that is. We are sorry to have caused you this inconvenience."

A customer denied owing 15 dollars. After getting letters from credit department, he went to the manager and said not only is he not going to pay the bill, but he won't but anything else from them again. The manager listened patiently to all he had to say without interrupting him. Then said, "I want to thank you for coming to me to tell me about this. You have done me a great favor, for if our credit department has annoyed you, it may annoy other good customers. Believe me, I am far more eager to hear this than you are to tell it. We'll wipe off the 15 dollar charge, because you are a very careful man with only one account to look after, while we have to look after many. Therefore, you are less likely to be wrong than we are."

If you are wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically
When an officer warned someone about not putting his dog on a leash, and he was caught again, he didn't wait for the officer to start speaking, he beat him to it with, "Officer, you've caught me red-handed. I'm guilty. I have no excuses." Officer might say, "Well now, I know it's a temptation to let a dog run around when nobody's around." "Sure it's a temptation, but it's against the law." "Well, a little dog like that isn't going to harm anybody." No, but it might kill squirrels." "Well, I think you're taking this too far. Just let him run over the hill where I can't see him and we'll forget all about it." The officer wanted a feeling of importance. So when you begin to condemn yourself, the only way he could nourish his self-esteem was to show mercy. Isn't it much easier to listen to self-criticism than to bear condemnation from alien lips?

An art director delighted to find fault with someone's drawings. He gloated over his chance to criticize. "If what you say is true, I am at fault and there is absolutely no excuse for my blunder." The art director started to defend him! "Yes, you're right. But it's not a serious mistake. It's only..." "Any mistake may be costly and they are all irritating.” He started to break in, but he wouldn't let him. "I should have been more careful. You deserve the best, so I'm going to do this drawing all over." "No! No!. I wouldn't think of it." The artist's eagerness to criticize himself took all the fight out of the art director. Any fool can try to defend his mistakes, but it raises one above the herd and gives a feeling of nobility to admit one's mistakes.

Robert E. Lee blamed himself and only himself for the failure of picket's charge. Lee was far too Nobel to blame others. As Picket's beaten and bloody troops struggled back to Confederate lines, Robert E. Lee rode out to meet them all alone and said, "All this has been my fault. I and I alone have lost this battle." Few generals in all history have had the courage and character to admit that.

During a course in human relations, a class wrote down criticisms to a certain man to let him see himself as others see him. One man was broken hearted because he was denounced for being too sure of himself, too self-centered, too domineering, an egoist, trouble-maker, and a communist. One of his critics ordered him to get out of class. Instead of denouncing his critics, he said, "Boys, I certainly am unpopular. There can be no mistaking that. It huts me to read these comments, but they are good for me. They have taught me a lesson. I long for friends just as you do. I want to make people like me. Won't you help me? Won't you please write me some more criticisms and tell me what I can do to improve my personality? If you will, I'll try hard, awfully hard, to change." He wasn't faking, he spoke straight from his own heart; so naturally he reached the hearts of his critics. The very men who had denounced him one week earlier were now for him, His soft answer had turned away wrath.

Begin in a friendly way
Here's a fable about the sun and the wind. They quarreled about which was the stronger, and the wind said, "I'll prove I am. See that old man down there with a coat? I bet I can make him take his coat off faster than you can." So the sun went behind a cloud and the wind blew until it was almost a tornado, but the harder it blew the tighter the old man wrapped his coat about him. Finally, the wind calmed down and gave up. The sun came out from behind the cloud and smiled kindly on the old man. He mopped his brow and pulled off his coat. The sun then told the wind, "gentleness and friendliness were always stronger than fury and force." Friendliness and appreciation can make people change their minds more readily than storming at them can.

Let the other fellow think the idea is his
Theodore Roosevelt forced through reforms which political bosses bitterly disliked. Here's how he did it. When an office was to be filled, he invited the political bosses to make recommendations. If they chose someone he disagreed with, he'd tell them, "to appoint such a man would not be good politics, as the public would not approve." Then they'd make another, and he'd say, "this man will not live up to the expectations of the public. Find someone more fitting for the post." When they name the sort of man that Roosevelt would pick, he'd express gratitude for their assistance, and he'd let them take the credit for the appointment. He'd tell them that he did these things to please them and now it was their turn to please him.

A doctor was building an addition and preparing to equip it with the finest X-ray department in America. He was overwhelmed with salesmen, each praising his own equipment. But one of them wrote a letter stating, "Our factory has recently completed a new line of X-ray equipment. They are not perfect, we know that, and we want to improve them. So we should be deeply obligated to you if you could find the time to look them over and give us your ideas about how they can be made more serviceable to your profession. Knowing how occupied you are, I shall be glad to send my car for you at any hour you specify."

This doctor never had an X-ray manufacturer seek his advice before. It made him feel important. The more he studied the equipment the more he liked it. Nobody tried to sell it to him, he felt the idea of buying that equipment for the hospital was his own. He sold himself on its superior qualities and ordered it installed.

Be sympathetic with other people's ideas and desires
Someone made an error in an announcement over the radio and got deluged with indignant and insulting letters. One in particular was from a woman who he thought, "Thank God, I am not married to that girl." He was going to write her a letter stating although he made a mistake in geography, she made a bigger mistake in common courtesy. But any hot-headed fool can do that. So he controlled himself, and resolved to turn her hostility into friendliness. After all, if he were her, he should undoubtedly feel just as she did. So, he called her up and said:

Him: Mrs. so and so. You wrote me a letter a few weeks ago, and I want to thank you for it.
She: (in a cultured, well-bred tone). To whom have I the honor of speaking?
Him: I am a stranger to you. My name is Dale Carnegie. You listened to a broadcast I gave about Louisa May Alcott a few Sundays ago, and I made the unforgivable blunder of saying that she had lived in New Hampshire. It was a stupid blunder and I want to apologize for it. It was so nice of you to take the time to write me.
She: I am sorry, Mr. Carnegie, that I wrote as I did. I lost my temper. I must apologize.
Him: No! No! You are not the one to apologize; I am the one to apologize. Any school child would have known better than to have said what I have said. I apologized over the air the Sunday following and I want to apologize to you personally now.
She: I was born in Concord, Massachusetts. My family has been prominent here for over two centuries and I am very proud of this state. I was quite distressed when you said she was born in New Hampshire. But I am really ashamed of that letter.
Him: I assure you that you were not one-tenth as distressed as I am. My error didn't hurt Massachusetts, but it did hurt me. It is so seldom that people of your standing and culture take the time to write people who speak on the radio, and I do hope you will write me again if you detect an error in my talks.
She: You know, I really like very much the way you have accepted my criticism, You must be a very good man. I should like to know you you better.

So, by apologizing and sympathizing with her point of view, he got her apologizing and sympathizing with his point of view. He had the satisfaction of controlling his temper, and returning kindness for an insult.


Dramatize your ideas
A manufacturer of a new rat poison gave dealers a display that included 2 live rats. Sales zoomed to 5X their normal rate.

An auto supply dealer had a display for an indestructible spark plug. It was smashed up and down against a rock. 1000X.

Instead of giving data verbally about a study done on cold cream, open a suitcase and dump 32 jars of cold cream on top of a desk, and on each cold jar have a tag of itemized results that briefly and dramatically tells its story.


Throw down a challenge
To get a factory to produce and meet their quota when they were lagging behind, the big boss asked the day shift how many heats they made. They said "six." Without another word, he chalked a big "6" on the floor and walked away. The next day, the boss saw the night shift had rubbed out "6" and replaced it with a "7." So, the night shift thought they were better than the day shift, huh? They made 10 that day.

Charles Swabb said, "The way to get things done is to stimulate competition. Not in a sordid, money grabbing way, but in a desire to excel." The challenge! An infallible way of appealing to men of spirit. The chance for self-expression. The chance to prove his worth, to excel, to win. The desire for a feeling of importance.


Begin with praise and honest appreciation
Calvin Cooledge said to his secretary, "That's a pretty dress you are wearing this morning, and you are a very attractive young woman." It was so unusual and unexpected, that the girl blushed in confusion. Then he said, "Now, don't get stuck up. I just said that to make you feel good. From now on, I wish you would be a little bit more careful with your punctuation." It is always easier to listen to unpleasant things after we have heard some praise of our good points.


Talk about your own mistakes before criticizing the other man
When you want to call attention to someone's mistake, say, "You have made a mistake, but the Lord knows it's no worse than many I have made. I have been guilty of so many stupid, silly things myself. I have very little inclination to criticize you or anyone else. But don't you think it would have been wiser if you had done so and so?"


Let the other man save his face
General Electric had to remove someone from the head of the department. He was a genius when it came to electricity, but was a washout as the head of the accounting department. The company didn't want to offend him, he was indispensable and highly sensitive. So they gave him a new title of "Consulting Engineer of the General Electric Company." A new title for work he was already doing. He was happy, and General Electric let someone else head up the department.


Give people a fine reputation to live up to
Someone hired a servant and told her to report to work, but he telephoned a former employer and all was not well. When the girl came to work, he said, "Nellie, I telephoned the other day to a woman you used to work for. She said you were honest and reliable, a good cook and good at caring for the children. But she also said you were sloppy and never kept the house clean. Now, I think she was lying. You dress neatly, anybody can see that. And I'll bet you keep the house just as neat as your person. You and I are going to get along fine." And they did. Nellie had a reputation to live up to and didn't want to be untrue to his ideal of her.

A servant girl brought Georgette her meals. She was called "Marie the Dishwasher" because she started her career as a scullery assistant. She was a kind of monster, cross-eyed, bandy-legged, poor in flesh and spirit. One day, while she was holding a plate of macaroni, Georgette said to her point-blank, "Marie, you do not know what treasures are within you." Accustomed to holding back her emotions, Marie waited a few moments, not daring to risk the slightest gesture for fear of a catastrophe. Then she put the dish on the table, sighed, and said ingenuously, "Madame, I would never have believed it." Then she went back to the kitchen and repeated what Georgette had said. She began taking care of her face and body so carefully that her starved youth seemed to blossom and modestly hid her plainness. Two months later she announced her coming marriage with the nephew of the chef. "I'm going to be a lady," she said and thanked Georgette. A small phrase had changed her entire life.

If you must deal with a crook, there is only one possible way of getting the better of him. Treat him as if he were an honorable gentleman. Take it for granted he is on the level. He will be so flattered by such treatment that he may answer to it, and be proud that someone trusts him.


Make other people happy about doing the thing you suggest
A mechanic was complaining that the hours were too long, that there was too much work, and that he needed an assistant. The shop didn't give him an assistant, or shorter hours or less work, and yet he made the mechanic happy. How? He was given a private office. His name appeared on the door, and with it his title "Manager of the Service Department." He was no longer a repair man to be ordered around, he was now the manager of a department. He had dignity, recognition, a feeling of importance.

A man had to refuse many invitations to speak from who he was obligated. He didn't merely say how busy he was. After expressing his appreciation of the invitation and regretting his inability to accept it, he suggested a substitute speaker. He didn't give the other man any time to feel unhappy about the refusal, but had him thinking of some other speaker he may obtain.


People don't blame Themselves
Dutch Crowley was know as a "cop killer" who would "kill at the drop of a feather." One day he was necking a girl in a car and a policeman walked up to the parked car and said, "Let me see your license." Without saying a word, Crowley drew his gun and cut the policeman down with a shower of lead. Then he grabbed the officer's gun and shot him again. Crowley later wrote, "Under my heart is a weary heart, but a kind one - one that would do nobody any harm."

Crowley was sentenced to the electric chair. When he arrived at the death house in Sing Sing, did he say, "This is what I get for killing people?" No, he said, "This is what I get for defending myself." Crowley didn't blame himself for anything. Al Capone, America's Public Enemy Number One, regarded himself as an unappreciated and misunderstood public benefactor. So did Dutch Schultz.

Warden Lawes of Sing Sing said, "Few of the criminals in Sing Sing regard themselves as bad men. They are just as human as you and I. So they rationalize, they explain. They can tell you why they had to crack a safe or be quick on the trigger finger. Most of them attempt by a form of reasoning, fallacious or logical, to justify their anti-social acts even to themselves, consequently stoutly maintaining that they should never have been imprisoned at all.

If these desperate men behind prison walls don't blame themselves for anything, what about the people with whom you and I come in contact? The late John Wanamaker once confessed, "I learned thirty years ago that it is foolish to scold. I have enough trouble overcoming my own limitations without fretting over the fact that God has not seen fit to distribute evenly the gift of intelligence."


This post originally posted on: www.ecclesia.org/truth/friends.html

Love Coach: When SHE Cheats: 7 Relationship Myth You Must Know

Most romantic dramas have the same, lazy storyline.
Do you know when your girlfriend cheat you? Why your relationship at risk? All its your fault. But it has exception too. 

Myth No. 4 — Men who get “played” in relationship are lacking in some way.

Dishonesty doesn’t surface due to a man’s small penis, limited bank account or soft-spoken nature. She didn’t cheat because of his flaws; she cheated due to hers.
Some beautiful woman — who has wanted nothing more in her life than to be a dutiful wife — finds out that her relatively successful husband is sharing his penis with another woman. She’s devastated. He’s apologetic. She swallows her pride. They move on.

I have some good and bad news. I’ll start on an uplifting note: In real life one’s ability to be monogamous isn’t dictated by what’s between his or her legs.  Men are fully capable of committing to a relationship, verbally and physically.  The not-so-great news? Women cheat too — and it’s not always because they’ve been emotionally neglected.

There are females who break their promises of fidelity simply because they are selfish. Sadly, there aren’t queues of movies to give even a fictitious play-by-play on how to help the scores of men forced to mend their broken hearts. Even worse, society often minimizes the emotional devastation guys grapple with when dealing with heartache, making it harder to find safe outlets to address pain.

Ready to get real on how to help male loved ones on the mend after being hurt by unfaithful girlfriends or wives? Consider how these seven assumptions impact how men are treated when dealing with infidelity, and what you can do to be a source of support.

Myth No. 1 — Men only get cheated on when they emotionally neglect their partner.

When folks hear about a woman stepping out on a man, there is an inclination to ask him, “What did you do?” Avoid vilifying either party. Instead create a space where he is comfortable sharing.

Myth No. 2 — Men always leave partners who’ve been unfaithful.

An affair doesn’t have to be the death of a relationship; it’s natural for a man to still love his mate — even when he’s angry. Guys should not be shamed for wanting to stay in a union if both parties are equally committed to moving forward in a healthy manner.

Myth No. 3 — Men inevitably cheat on women who’ve committed infidelity.

Fellows must ditch the itch to play the payback game by cheating on an unfaithful partner — or entertaining encouragement to do so. Continuing the cycle of looking outside of the relationship may feel good in the moment — or hours — but ultimately only perpetuates drama. If partners want to move forward, they must distance themselves from anything that undermines building a new, solid foundation of trust.

Myth No. 4 — Men who get “played” in relationship are lacking in some way.


Dishonesty doesn’t surface due to a man’s small penis, limited bank account or soft-spoken nature. She didn’t cheat because of his flaws; she cheated due to hers.

Myth No. 5 — Men don’t need therapy to help cope with a partner’s affair.

Solo and marital counseling is an effective way to create a safe space to express feelings and develop healthy coping skills. It’s a valuable resource to help deal with stress and develop a plan.

Myth No. 6 — Men can’t talk to other men about being the victim of infidelity.

Every guy may not be the buddy to vent to, but there are scores of men who can lend an ear and offer sound advice. The key is to pick someone who is fair, mature and not jaded. Vet wisely.
 

Myth No. 7 — Men don’t have fantasies about “happily ever after."

Don’t forget that guys also daydream about that “perfect girl," married life and child-rearing, which means they are crushed when faced with losing that fairytale ending. Men must give themselves permission to mourn the death of that dream AND to begin a new one.

How to Become Famous as a Musician or Artist: Become famous and earn big money

The internet is in my view one of the most democratic and revolutionary tools of this era. How to succeed, become famous and earn big money as a musician or artist!
 
How to Become Famous as a Musician or Artist
It is a very easy quite accessible and very cheap technology to use, which is transforming our times. Certainly with the internet now you have no excuses for what you want to be.

With the internet any dream is possible, one can be a millionaire, make money or even become a famous musician in a very short time.

That last is precisely the story that we now want to review and that comes to us from The Wall Street Journal.

This is the case of Justin Vernon musician who in late 2006 recorded 6 songs using only a desktop computer. In 2007 "hung" these songs on My Space (this is a free online community that allows you to have a free blog) and printed as 500 CDs with his music.

The idea was to sell these CDs to friends but also give them to different bloggers, who had specialized in music blogs, to see if any of them came to discuss their music on their blogs.

Soon his strategy was successful and received several comments from various blogs. In October 2007 he released his first album sold 87,000 copies and that now is a musician who plays around the United States. Justin Vernon's story is a clear example of how the internet accompanied by effort, perseverance and creativity can bring a musician to success.

A few years ago, a musician to be famous must depend on record companies, their millionaire marketing strategies, marketing and often favors. Today the internet has totally changed it as we demonstrated by Justin Vernon.

That is why in many of my articles permanently say that success depends only on us and nobody else but obviously nothing will happen in your life if you start to do something to make things happen (I recommend reading the Article Make Things Happen).

Stop dreaming about being a famous musician and move to action today as did Justin Vernon.

How to Become Famous as a Musician or Artist! How to Become Famous as a Musician or Artist!

11 Things Man Wants From Woman He Loves


As a man, I have to admit: Guys can be needy. So here's a compilation of the thoughts and acts that will require minimal sacrifice on your part while bringing us untold pleasure. Read it, learn it, try it. Thank you.



1. Your backing when he takes a risk. Guys need to keep in touch with adventure—why else would Man Vs. Wild be a TiVo staple? "When I wanted to switch careers, my girl said to go for it," says Will, 30. "Having her in my corner gave me the courage to try."
2. The right to keep Secrets. Why should he have to tell you his friend is having an affair, or that his cousin lost his job and hasn't told his wife yet? If it's not integral to your relationship, don't feel threatened. His discretion shows he's a grown-up.
3. A guilt-free boys' night out. The cure for "girly-man" syndrome is contact with other high-fiving men. This may mean a trip to the bar or an Ultimate Fighting Championship—but it's definitely without you, and that's OK. "See me off with a smile," says Al-Teriq, 38. "That trust is critical."
4. The green light to actually have sex, should the opportunity arise, with someone on his Celebrity List of Five. And by all means, hop on Brad Pitt if you ever get the chance.
5. Some space when his team loses the big game. And you can save your "maybe next year" optimism; just give us time alone to weep.
6. A heads-up when you just need us to listen. Sometimes all you really want to do is vent to us about something. A simple warning in advance and we promise we'll stay quiet and let you talk it out.
7. Patience when he says the wrong thing. Like when you ask, "How's my hair?" and we say, "Fine," instead of "Amazing!" Give us a break: We're trying.
8. Big guffaws and tiny giggles. We like to hear laughter—preferably following one of our silly jokes. We know, we know: Chris Rock and Jerry Seinfeld we are not, but anything you offer will be very much appreciated.
9. Frequent (and enthusiastic) trips downtown. Yes, we all request this, but that's because it really is that good. We're happy to return the favor.
10. A gps for the car. You want this too. It will end those "where the *#!? are we?" arguments once and for all.
11. The freedom to be himself. It's important for people in a relationship to retain a sense of self, and for guys that's achievable in some unexpected ways. "Leaving the toilet seat up or spending the weekend in boxers can be an act of rebellion," says Samuel, 27. "We need to do stuff we've always done, even though you might not like it."
 

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20 Things Every Woman Deserves From The guy In Her Life

Relationships are a two way street. All women have a right to a man who tries and succeeds in making her happy. They deserve a man who will bend over backwards to treat them right. He should make an effort to show her how much he appreciates her. And you know what? He should treat her this way because this is how she treats him.
 
1 His undivided attention at important moments. Not I've-got-basketball-on-TV attention or I'm-mentally-undressing-you attention, but full presence.

2 Compliments that are actually spoken aloud. Things that don't qualify: a pat on the bottom, a finger pistol plus wink, a "yesssss!" after great sex.
3 Good manners, even if you've been dating for years. He had you at "Hello," but what makes him think he can keep you at "S'up?"
4 A thoughtful balance of refreshing honesty and merciful little white lies. A few examples: He should speak the truth when you ask, "Are you hurt by what I said earlier?" But he should fudge when you ask, "Honey, do you mind if my mom comes to dinner?"
5 His utter lust for (and unwavering devotion to) one or more of your body parts, be it your legs, breasts, hips or behind. Bonus points if his fervor spills over to you and pumps up your body ego.
6 Lots of foreplay. And then some more. Plus…
7 …sex that involves eye contact, kissing and cuddling. This isn't to suggest that maple syrup, cartwheels and the French maid costume are out, but you should be having plain vanilla love whenever you want it.
8 Acknowledgement of your relationship to his friends, to his family, and, yes, on Facebook. Sylvie, 31, confesses: "I insisted one boyfriend change his online profile from single' to in a relationship.' An electronic betrayal can hurt as much as a real one."
9 Proud PR. He revels in your achievements, doesn't feel diminished by them, and loves acting as your personal publicist.
10 Use of his "inside voice" during arguments. Grown-ups should be able to bicker—even flat-out fight—without rupturing a vocal cord.
11 The willingness to never, ever blame your behavior on your period, unless you say, "Sorry, it must be my period." And even then he should just smile and nod, smile and nod.
12 Knight-in-shining-armor-ness. Modern-day gallantry does not make you a spoiled princess, so just enjoy the pampering when he rescues you from boring dinner party conversations, picks you up in his Honda chariot and slays dragons—OK, roaches—for you.
13 A call, not a text, that comes when he says it will. Making you wait by the phone is a power play—and as Dana, 36, puts it, "Somehow a text from my husband when he's on a business trip doesn't quite say Good night, sweetheart' like a phone call would."
14 Encouragement when you stand up to the person you've never had the guts to before. And a big hug if it doesn't work out quite the way you had hoped.
15 Gifts he knows you'll adore, even if they're not 100 percent his style.
16 A more-to-love attitude when you gain five pounds.
17 Another chance. So you blew it: You got drunk at his high school reunion, got caught peeking at his e-mail, had lunch with an ex-boyfriend and somehow forgot to tell him about it, called him by that ex-boyfriend's name in a heated moment. You're going to make some mistakes (and so will he). Once you've groveled sufficiently and let him vent for a bit, he should be prepared to forgive you. Cue the makeup sex.
18 Amusement at your quirks. He gets a kick out of your chocolate-is-a-food-group approach to nutrition and thinks it's funny you call your best friend to watch reality TV "together." Kudos to the man who recognizes eccentricities for what they are: the stuff that makes you deliciously you.
19 Half of the housework. That's right, all you cohabitors, half the dishes, half the laundry, and half—OK, maybe all—the garbage-schlepping.
20 Respect. If Aretha can sing a song about it for four decades, we can mention one more time that any guy worthy of your love will be unstinting with R-E-S-P-E-C-T. And you shouldn't have to spell this one out for him.

 
If he is worthy of you, he will never treat you with anything less than the utmost respect. He should make it his mission to show you how much he cares for you and how special you are to him. He should never  do anything that hurts you, makes you uncomfortable, or scares you.

50 Ways to Become a Millionaire

50 Ways Become a Millionaire Fast: There are miraculous ways to become a millionaire fast and even if you are young. Becoming a millionaire isn't all that difficult and there are countless ways to become a millionaire. Entrepreneurship is central to becoming a millionaire!

50 Ways to Become a Millionaire

  • Marry A Millionaire
  • Become a Reality Star Millionaire 
  • Start your Own Online Affiliate Marketing Business
  • Become A Millionaire Pornstar: Ok this isn’t for the faint-hearten for sure, but there are lots of people (men and women) that have hit it big with this career choice.
  • Become a Millionaire by Winning the Lotto
  • Vlog your way to Millions
  • Real Estate (Mobile Homes, SFH, Commercial, Apartments, Duplexes)
  • Stock Market Investor
  • Rob a bank
  • Start a Multi Level Marketing company
  • Own an Internet Business
  • Network Marketing (often referred to as MLM or multi-level marketing)
  • Write a New York Times Bestseller (can be fiction or non-fiction)
  • Become a celebrity (ex: movie star or comedian, top athlete, corrupt politician)
  • Sought after Surgeon (ex: heart, brain, etc.)
  • An extremely good lawyer (there's a bunch of starving lawyers out there)
  • Venture Capitalist
  • Mortgage/Note Investor (referred to as investing in Paper)
  • Small Business Owner
  • Franchise Owner
  • Marrying a millionaire
  • Movie Producer/director
  • Executive positions such as CEO, Treasurer, COO, CFO, etc. in large corporations
  • Collector of valuable antiques or paintings
  • Musician/rock star
  • Inheritance (very easy way, pick your parents carefully)
  • Start a Technology company to fill a demand/solve a problem etc.
  • Be a seminar/motivational speaker or guru
  • Sell Infomercial products
  • Forex or Currency trader
  • Commodities Trader
  • Option or stock day trader
  • Scientist (head scientist, not the assistant)
  • Own a Winning Sports Team
  • 5% of millionaires are super salespeople
  • Financial Advisors with wealthy clients
  • Coaches of Sports Teams
  • Gambling/Lottery or World Series of Poker Tournament
  • Inventor
  • Annuities Sales
  • Top TV Anchor or News reporter
  • Super Model
  • Fashion Designer
  • Famous song writer
  • Famous screenwriter
  • Consultant (any type of consultant, as long as you're in demand and clients are willing to pay big bucks for it)
  • Celebrity Trainer
  • NASCAR race car driver (wouldn't hurt to win it)
  • Betting on horse races (you might want to win the bet on that one too)
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There is no such thing as get rich quick or get rich overnight. Those are scams; don't believe anyone that tells you that you can become a millionaire without knowledge and some work. To make it easier to get to where you want to go, find work that is fun and enjoyable. Do something that you love to do, so that it isn't work but play and fun. And never give up!  



All of the above routes are just vehicles to use to become a millionaire. There are countless ways to become a millionaire. You can become a millionaire in almost anything, the key is leverage, work smart and come up with a solid business plan. Then work your plan diligently and stay on course. Obviously you can't become a millionaire working for others; it's very rare, unless you're a top executive. 

20 Quotes From The Greatest Love Letters Of The 20th Century

20 Famous Love Letters That Will Make You A Romantic person! These are the ten most romantic love letters of all time, I found a few honest to goodness notes and letters that would make a heart of stone melt like heaven.

1. I don’t ask you to love me always like this, but I ask you to remember. Somewhere inside of me there will always be the person I am tonight. – F. Scott Fitzgerald

2. I love you more than anybody in the world… I love you for millions and millions of things, clocks and vampires and dirty nails and squiggly paintings and lovely hair and being dizzy and falling dreams. – Dylan Thomas

3. I just miss you, in a quite simple desperate human way. I miss you even more than I could have believed; and I was prepared to miss you a good deal. So this letter is really just a squeal of pain. – Vita Sackville-West

4. I don’t want to live – I want to love first, and live incidentally. – Zelda Fitzgerald

5. Dearest — my body is simply crazy with wanting you — If you don’t come tomorrow — I don’t see how I can wait for you — I wonder if your body wants mine the way mine wants yours — the kisses — the hotness — the wetness — all melting together — the being held so tight that it hurts — the strangle and the struggle. – Georgia O’Keefe

6. Your word travels the entirety of space and reaches my cells which are my stars then goes to yours which are my light. – Frida Kahlo

7. I answer one of your letters, then lie in bed in apparent calm, but my heart beats through my entire body and is conscious only of you. I belong to you; there is really no other way of expressing it, and that is not strong enough. – Franz Kafka

8. My love for you tonight is so deep and tender that it seems to be outside myself as well. – Katherine Mansfield

9. Nothing has happened as we imagined it would except our children. We never thought we’d roam the world. We never thought our occupations and interests would cover such a range. We never thought that our thirty-third anniversary would find us deep in our second war and me again at the front. Well, darling, we’ve lived up to the most important part of the ceremony, “In sickness and in health, for richer for poorer, till death do you part.” – Theodore Roosevelt Jr.

10. I told you once that [our marriage] was like an adolescent’s dream of what marriage should be like. That hasn’t changed. – Ronald Reagan

11. I have a thousand images of you in an hour; all different and all coming back to the same. I think of you once against a sky line: and on the hill that Sunday morning. The light and the shadow and quietness and the rain and the wood. And you. Your arms and lips and hair and shoulders and voice – you. – Rupert Brooke

12. You might drop your heart into me and you’d never hear it touch bottom. – Katherine Mansfield

13. I cannot get that beautiful afternoon out of my head, above me where I lay the grass was silhouetted against the blue of the heavens, small clouds were rushing past as the wind drove them on an endless journey. Then close to me was the most lovely of all, your soft hair against my cheek, your kisses so cool and unearthly and my happiness so great. – Julia Lee-Booker

14. I hurt with the insatiate longing, until I feel that there will never be any relief until I take a long, deep, wild draught on your lips.– Warren Harding



15. Happiness is within you… so unlock the chains from your heart and let yourself grow— like the sweet flower you are. I know the answer— just spread your wings and set yourself free. – Jimi Hendrix

16. The fire and excitement may be gone now that we don’t go out there and sing them anymore, but the ring of fire still burns around you and I, keeping our love hotter than a pepper sprout. – Johnny Cash

17. As one needs happiness so have I needed love; that is the deepest need of the human spirit. And as I love you utterly, so have you now become the whole world of my spirit. It is beside and beyond anything that you can ever do for me; it lies in what you are, dear love — to me so infinitely lovely that to be near you, to see you, hear you, is now the only happiness, the only life, I know. – Rockwell Kent

18. There are several kinds of love. One is a selfish, mean, grasping, egotistical thing which uses love for self-importance. This is the ugly and crippling kind. The other is an outpouring of everything good in you — of kindness and consideration and respect — not only the social respect of manners but the greater respect which is recognition of another person as unique and valuable. The first kind can make you sick and small and weak but the second can release in you strength, and courage and goodness and even wisdom you didn’t know you had. – John Steinbeck

19. I came in at half past eleven. Since then I have been sitting in an easy chair like a fool. I could do nothing. I hear nothing but your voice. I am like a fool hearing you call me ‘Dear.’ I offended two men today by leaving them coolly. I wanted to hear your voice, not theirs. When I am with you I leave aside my contemptuous, suspicious nature. I wish I felt your head on my shoulder. – James Joyce

20. As always, a million heartfelt thanks for bringing such joy into this chick’s life. – Princess Diana

10 Ways To Become a Billionaire

If you wants to Become a Billionaire Read this article carefully. Everyone recognizes a great entrepreneur when they work with one, but most entrepreneurs don’t know what to look for in themselves that will drive that perception in others. In my experience, there is no magic gene involved, just simple good habits executed consistently and convincingly until everyone around you in a startup wants to follow your example.

This leading by example is easy to say, but not so easy to put into action. Most leadership gurus, including John Baldoni, have provided generic recipes in his book, Lead By Example: 50 Ways Great Leaders Inspire Results (Buy this book from amazon, Limited stock) The points are great but can be made even simpler and more actionable by adapting them to the world of the entrepreneur:

10 Ways to Become a Billionaire

  • Demonstrate character. In the dictionary definition, character is said to be “the stable and distinctive qualities built into an individual’s life which determine his or her response regardless of circumstances.” Steve Jobs of Apple had character, and the people around him knew what he stood for in good times as well as bad. 
  • Be accountable for your actions. In a startup, things don’t always work, and it’s easy to blame someone else, the poor economy or just bad luck. Thomas Edison made no excuses for ten thousand light failures. Challenged by his contemporaries, Edison soberly responded: “I have not failed. I have just found ten thousand ways that won’t work.” 
  • Check your ego at the door (and keep it there). For an entrepreneur, this is often evident in the willingness to be coached by outside experts or by your own team. We all know too many people who won’t listen to any advice from anyone. That’s just hubris, and it doesn’t inspire anyone. 
  • Promote resilience. There is no shame in getting knocked down; it’s getting back up that matters. In a startup, pivots and problems will happen. Learn to anticipate change, bounce back stronger and teach others to do the same. Dean Kamen, while still struggling with the Segway Human Transporter, holds 440 other device patents. 
  • Get in the habit of asking questions but do not expect easy answers. That includes taking a hard look in the mirror and facing reality. Howard Schultz, who grew Starbucks to 13,000 stores by 2008, decided to step back in as CEO and bring focus back to the customer when the economy was killing his stores. Now he has over 20,000 stores. 
  • Manage around obstacles. We’ve all seen the entrepreneur who is struggling to keep the business alive by tackling the daily obstacle. No one is looking around the corner to see the next one. Richard Branson, now worth about $4.2 billion, offers this advice: “Obstacles and challenges are healthy for everyone.” He is always looking ahead. 
  • Drive innovation. Great businesses these days start with innovation. Entrepreneur examples include Larry Page and Sergey Brin at Google, who turned a new search technology into a tool that most of us couldn’t live without. Encourage everyone on the team to think and act creatively. Good ideas can come from anyone at any time. 
  • Encourage dissent about issues but promote civility around people. Receptiveness to dissent allows for corrective feedback to monitor ineffectual startup practices, poor and unfavorable decision making, and insensitivity to team needs and desires. This is positive, but a loss of civility more than negates all these positives. 
  • Create a winning culture. Entrepreneurs drive values, values drive behavior, behavior drives culture, and culture drives performance. High performance makes new leaders. This is the self-reinforcing circle of excellence every startup needs for success. Winning business cultures, such as Apple’s, are set from the top. 
  • Teach others “the how.” Teach them how to do the job and get out of the way and let them do it. Great entrepreneurs are mentors to everyone on their team. Effective entrepreneurs are not afraid to “get their hands dirty” working with the troops. Bill Gates of Microsoft, even late in his career, wasn’t afraid to jump in and write some code to illustrate a point.
Being an entrepreneur may start with that million dollar idea, but turning that idea into a great startup is all about results. The quickest way to great results is to build a great team and let it multiply your productivity. Using the actions described here as a model, take a look in the mirror to see how well you are leading by example.

22 Best Relationship Advice of The Year from Experts To Be a Perfect Partner

Best Relationship advice ever: Beginning a relationship is generally the easy part; it's maintaining the connection that gets a little tricky. We've rounded up some of the best relationship advice for both men and women. Our advice Will help you cultivate love and happiness in your home. Below are 22 good relationship advice.

Relationship Advice of The Year from Experts

As people in search of self-improvement, it is important to recognize the experts in the different areas where we want to be better and seek their advice. Here, we present tips for relationships with friends, but if we want to be best sellers, top businessmen, enjoy better health etc. we must always seek the advice of experts. In the mean time you can read: 50 Most Romantic Ways to Propose A Boy.

THE RELATIONSHIPS

  • You must be aware that the degree of closeness you have with your partner can change hour to hour, day to day and from season to season. People live closer to their partner in the same way as they experience the food - too much and felt uncomfortable. We all have different abilities. 
  • Learn from your experiences. Realize what works and what usually prompts a negative reaction from your partner. Do what works and stop doing what bothers or annoys the other.

Also Read: 50 Most Cheap and Fun Dating Ideas

THE COMMUNICATION

  • Ask your partner what you want. Despite what you might believe, your partner can not or should know what you're thinking. Asking increases the likelihood of getting what you want. You must be very specific. 
  • Keep the agreements you get to have with your partner. This builds confidence, which is the basis of everything that is important in your relationship and your life. 
  • He speaks in short sentences, short paragraphs to how much instead of pages during a difficult conversation. Your partner only remember the last two sentences you said and forget the beginning of a speech. 
  • Acknowledge your mistakes, even if you do not like the way your partner the addresses you. It is tempting to try to defend yourself when attacked by your partner, but if you do, both lost.

Also read: 50 Easy Ways To Become a Happier Person

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GAMES AND FUN

  • Laugh together. Share jokes, cartoons, movies or anything else that makes you smile and do not forget to remember those funny experiences lived together. 
  • Challenge your partner to resolve a conflict you with water pistols war 5 mt. with whipped cream or spray a 2 mt.

HOUSEWORK

  • Hire someone to do the tasks that both hate to do, or do them together. Start with the things that are never made, perhaps because neither wants to do. 
  • Occasionally do a task that is not expected you to do. Surprise your partner when he / she has not prepare food or fix the garden.

LIMITS

  • Name the movie you want to see or restaurant you want to go before asking your partner your choice. In this way you avoid getting angry because your partner will not read your mind. 
  • Do not you confront your partner. If you think your partner is busy with other things and ignoring you, try to identify ways your ignore it on, and then change your behavior and this usually also make the change. This applies to any behavior you do not like.

THE MONEY

  • They should set financial goals in common. Be sure to discuss and agree what would be the priorities. If you think you are saving for vacation and the other believes that save to invest will have serious problems. 
  • They spend less than they earn. Use the extra to create a savings fund. Minimize stress generated by money issues allows you to focus on what really matters - your relationship.

SPECIAL OCCASIONS

  • They create their own traditions for times and special occasions. They come from different families with different traditions. Choose what is really important for everyone and try to combine their desires to satisfy both. 
  • Try to be receptive (a) to the tracks that gives you your partner about what you would like to receive as a gift. Pay attention to what you like and use that information when shopping.

SEPARATION

  • Encourage your partner to do the things you really enjoy but do not share the same tastes. You do not have to participate in that if you do not like. There is no rule of what to do or not do together. 
  • Be sure to listen to your partner even when they disagree so that at least you can understand their desires. Understand the position of your partner does not mean you have to agree with her.

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CLOSE UP

  • Speak for at least 10 minutes each day about their achievements, their dreams, hopes, fears and difficulties. These important issues are sometimes lost among the daily challenges of life. 
  • Avoid blaming your partner for problems in your relationship. Try all your problems as if they contributed. And do you know that? That's how it went.

CARING FOR YOUR PARTNER

  • Cacha your partner doing something right and recognize it. It's easy to complain when things are not going well and we hope that things always go smoothly. Your recognition and appreciation will be very well received. 
  • Give your partner the best gift that can give. Listen to (a) with your full attention.



I hope you have enjoyed these tips for relationships. Do not forget that for a relationship to work must have the discipline and commitment to integrate these tips (and everyone else that may happen to them where to show love and respect for your partner) to your life. These tips for relationships come from an authority on the subject, aprovechenlos.

Relationship Advice for Women & Couples, The Best Relationship Advice You Will Ever Hear!

What is the best relationship advice you've ever received, Please write down in the comment box, I would like to hear your story and experience

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The Pill That Erases Bad Memories

The Forgetting Pill Erases Painful Memories Forever: Scientists from several prestigious universities in Europe and the US have created a pill that erases unpleasant memories in mice. The progress being made in the field of brain functioning do foresee that in ten years, maybe five, there will be drugs that can erase the painful memories that exist in the minds of humans.

That a considerable number of scientists devote their efforts to create a drug that eradicates some memory of an individual not surprising, Why oblivion has become so important? With an increasingly growing often hear patients who claim their therapists or psychoanalysts to help them forget, to leave behind, to be removed from the head, this or that issue that disturbs or restless. Perhaps these people should ask the following questions: Are we not perhaps the result of all the experiences, whether pleasurable or unpleasurable ?, It is our history that makes us unique ?, Is not it our unique way of being, thinking and feel, with its contradictions and paradoxes, the most valuable thing we own?
 


It is wrong to think that we can ignore the past, although this has been periods of suffering. The painful events must find a place to insert in our own lives, if cercenamos, the fabric of our history is full of gaps and we can not find our tour vital meaningless. On the contrary, remember allows the person to acquire possession of lived experience, conquer its internal and hile world with its own history sense.

When, through a process of deep introspection, such as psychotherapy or psychoanalysis, someone manages to relieve psychic pain, surely we face a person who has acquired a thoughtful, deep intelligence. Pain, far from being an experience to extirpate from the mind, could then become an excellent opportunity to expand our mental horizons.


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50 signs that you can become an entrepreneur [Part II]

You can become an entrepreneur: Yes That 50 Signs Part I we have published earlier this post. Now we are going to write: 50 signs that you can become an entrepreneur [Part II]. Check out if you are born to become an entrepreneur.

We publish the second part of the article with signs listing, signaling the prospect of becoming an entrepreneur. Remember, even if you do not have all of the above traits and behavior right now, you always have the opportunity to develop the quality and instill some new skills, for business - it is a lifestyle, not a job or a hobby. If you wish to read the first 1-25 Signs you may follow this link.

50 signs that you can become an entrepreneur

26. Meeting the challenges you are checking, whether not designed to overcome this situation, a special application

You may have already started to create a business model and software architecture in order to find out if his plan enforceable.

27. You are the soul of the company

Talking to people you do not cause any problems.

28. From time to time you quote Steve Jobs, most often in order to keep yourself relax

29. You sell something as a child

Perhaps you were one of the best sellers in the class.

30. You get more updates from the people, which were signed on Twitter, than from real friends, whose names are contained in your notebook

31. You are a proactive person and never give up half way through

32. Regardless of the specifics of the tasks you always think about the case from the perspective of return on investment

33. You follower style "shabby chic", and your official costume gathering dust in the closet

Do you prefer t-shirt and jeans business clothing

34. You can hardly be called a realist

And it is normal for the innovator.

35. Do you think outside the box

36. You are a charming and charismatic man

37. The rules do not apply to you

It is not a violation of the law, and the readiness to go against the established norms for the realization of the idea.

38. Do you understand that you can not cope with all the chores alone

Do you have a good idea and promotion strategy, but you know that do not have all the necessary skills to do business.

39. You are a very stubborn

And this is another reason of your dismissal.

40. You are unpredictable

As an entrepreneur you know the transience of events. Fortunately, you're always ready to change.

41. Do you prefer to be part of the group and do not get much pleasure out of loneliness

Chances are you closer to the operating mode of the 4 people group.

42. You are determined

You know, that should make the impossible possible.

43. Friends and family support you

44. You can take a nap in the workplace

Sleep from 10 pm to 6 am old.

45. You had a niche analysis

You know that the mere presence of an incredible idea does not guarantee a financial return. That's why you have already checked whether consumers will make purchases.

46. ​​You deserve to surround yourself with people, avoiding the parasites that hamper development

47. You're a bit out of this world

The process of creating something new out of the void subservient to human type, whose representatives to the same extent can be called crazy and brilliant. Remember, people thought of Albert Einstein crazy until he introduced the theory of relativity.

48. You ever asked your relatives or friends to send you an invitation in the calendar to talk

49. Do you think your time is worth more than money

50. During your most recent tirades about the "secrets of the explosive growth of" your spouse understood about what you said
 


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